Vagina Wars

[sg_popup id=”1403″ event=”inherit”][/sg_popup]I’ve been at war with my vagina for about three decades. It’s unfortunate, feeling this way about such a powerful, awe-inspiring organ – one around which I shape most of my identity. The truth is, I’m not that stoked to be a woman. A lot of the time, it’s a huge drag. At…

To the Next Generation: Don’t Make Work Your Calling

[sg_popup id=”1403″ event=”inherit”][/sg_popup]I grew up with two hard-working parents who weren’t totally happy with their jobs. In fact, a lot of the time, they were walking tumbleweeds of worry and frustration. This led me to the (quite logical) conclusion that MY job should ALWAYS be enjoyable – and that the only way to accomplish this…

How to Un-Friend IRL

Ghosting is so 2018. [sg_popup id=”1403″ event=”inherit”][/sg_popup]Remember middle school? You’d start the year sitting with Jemima (or Betsy or whomever) at lunch, proudly declaring your friendship to the world with those glittery “best friend” heart necklaces from Claire’s. You’d plan sleepovers so you could choreograph fake music videos to Spice Girls and No Doubt while…

Sometimes, I’d rather just move.

No, it won’t all go the way it should, but I know the heart of life is good. – John Mayer Sometimes, I’d rather just move.  [sg_popup id=”1403″ event=”inherit”][/sg_popup]It’s so messy, this business of relating to actual people. Instead of hanging in there, sticking it out, making apologies for my shortcomings (which are so very…

The Long Drive

My last post broke from the topic of work and business-building and, instead, grappled with the difficulty of facing up to failure and regret as it pertains to everyday life and the goals that we set for ourselves; more specifically, it dealt with the fact that my husband and I called it quits on our…

Lost in the Parenting Desert

[sg_popup id=”1403″ event=”inherit”][/sg_popup]When a dear friend called to tell me about a brilliant local event she wanted to plan around the theme of “drought,” I thought “hell yeah.” It was a particularly awful day, during what most of us might call the “apocalyptic period” of this last summer – so much smoke you couldn’t see…

Nobody Knows How to Love You (Unless You Teach Them How)

[sg_popup id=”1403″ event=”inherit”][/sg_popup]When I birthed my firstborn, my mom stayed with us for a week and organized our pantry. Slowly, over the course of seven days, our dry goods and snacks were divided into clear plastic containers, each with a shiny white label neatly attached. “Rice.” “Sugar.” “Snack nuts.” This was her gift to me,…

Stop Wasting Time People-Pleasing

[sg_popup id=”1403″ event=”inherit”][/sg_popup]My husband and I had children 100 percent on purpose. We felt ready, so I figured it would be easy, effortless. But motherhood isn’t necessarily a natural skill; sometimes it’s learned through practice, deep discomfort, and lots (and lots and lots) of failure. I thought motherhood would simply be part of my already…

This Skill Keeps Me From Murdering My Husband

[sg_popup id=”1403″ event=”inherit”][/sg_popup]About a month ago, my husband and I endured one of the worst weeks of our marriage. Nothing of note was happening in our lives – no sudden financial crisis, or difficult family relationship meltdowns. We were just “off.” We had little to say to each other, casual conversation felt painful, and verbal…

Letting Your Inner Wisdom Take the Wheel

[sg_popup id=”1403″ event=”inherit”][/sg_popup]I’m always shocked at the steals I find at Goodwill. I mean, who thinks to donate battered three-ring binders to a thrift store? I couldn’t tell you, but I’m sure glad they do, because as I stood there gazing at them, amidst plastic bags of children’s toys and souvenir coffee mugs, my next…